We are scheduled for surgery Aug 12th. July 31st I'll have my pre opt appt and I've also requested an additional consult w/ the surgeon. On our last appt two weeks ago she was pulled away so we didn't meet her. So ya know, just curious to meet her prior to having her up feel me up. I am just that kinda grrl.
On my own household scheduling front I am putting together my own calendar backing into this date and beyond. My dad and his wife Karolin from PDX are coming out to be with us during and right after. Then my sister from Cali for a few weeks to get us transitioned into the school year. Then our grrreat friend Carrie from PDX. Others have offered and you are most def on our back up roster as there will be undoubtedly holes to fill along the way. Remains to be seen what help we'll need after a month and a half. Just feels like the best thing to do is clone myself. Unfortunately I have a few parts on order, which will not arrive in time. So hence this care team AnnieTom devotees. If we didn't have a toddler, I am not sure we'd need a clone.
I do think twice about letting people that far in (e.g. to your home to see how you live up close is incredibly incredible intimate; think about it. you fully let them in on how you parent to how you treat your spouse to what your family eats. ugh.). However I really have no choice. We'll need the help. A) After Nelson was born, dad and karolin came out for over a week and got me back on my feet. I was such a mess and not a clue what would have happened without them. So I have that good experience to look back on and feel good that these two can see us at our worse and help patch us up. B) talked to a fellow patient. She confirmed my worst fears. In a good way. The first two weeks are incredibly brutal. More on her later.
And the H word. Help. Read recently that "help me" is one of the hardest things to say. Def not my strong suit. Understatement. And thank the lordie that the offers are starting to roll in. Karolin reminded me people do like to help. It makes someone feel good … so let them. So I am going to work on that nut for the next month. Very tough one to crack however when totally drugged, incapacitated yada yada, I could maaaaaaaybe be persuaded.
Organizing the heck out of this … whatever this is … is making me sorta feel better. As a project manager by day and mom by night, tis in my nature. I am making no color-coated TAR/time action report timelines but I am considering creating a binder for my house so people who do help in the house, can have something to reference. And then I think I am freak for, well, freaking out about one month of hell. As my brother reminded me, I'll be just directing from the couch, still fully in the mix. I haven't bought off entirely on that one yet. <Insert a joke about a jump to conclusions map HERE or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qiw3vVy_eN8.
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